Today, or I guess technically last night, I said goodbye to my very best friend. There is not much I can think to say. Or maybe it’s that I have so many thoughts I can’t pick one. I loved him so much. But you all probably already knew that, because I know he was loved by more than just me. I will miss him but I will never forget him. I have already begun to read all the letters people have written about Erik. Yesterday I thought of things I never want to forget about him. Here’s just a few – maybe you’ll be able to nod in agreement to some.

  • His “to do” lists
  • His special homemade vanilla “milkshakes” – these involved stirring vanilla ice cream into a cup of milk
  • His complaints about his balding head, big nose or what he thought was an overweight physique
  • There wasn’t a number he couldn’t remember.
  • He was always extra organized and over prepared for things – he always wanted everything to be perfect.
  • He had such a knack for people – he always made sure the other person talked more than him in a conversation, always asking questions and learning more about them.
  • “Go big or go home”
  • His knowledge of cars – not only could he tell you in one look the year of a particular car, he could also tell you what options were offered for the models, about how much they were worth, what kind of quality they should be in…his mind was basically NADA. He could also spot any car he had previously sold. We’d be driving somewhere and he’d say, “Hey there’s the truck I sold to that guy last year” I’d say, “Are you sure, how can you tell?” “I know he lives in Orem and I remember the wheels it had on it and that it had that after market bumper” (or any other physical feature).
  • He loved education – he always wanted to get his masters and doctorate someday

I could go on and on. Everyone might have other things, but those are some of the ones that first came to my mind. Bottom line is – he was wonderful. I guess that’s why he didn’t need all the extra time like most of us do down here. I know I already said this but, I’m really going to miss him.


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  1. Oh Emily, I am so sorry. It is so true about Erik and his hair, nose and weight issues. Even when he was younger, he was always making comments about them. I guess he found the best way to replace all the hairs he lost on his head by going Home. He was loved and was wonderful. Our prayers are with you and your boys.Love,Alysia Holdaway

  2. Emily – Jordan called me this morning to let me know of Erik’s passing. We are all so heartbroken, and wish you and the boys peace in knowing Erik was so loved and respected. What a wonderful young man he was. We will also miss him, but know he is with Opa, Michael and his Cousin Brent.We love you and wish you comfort at this very, very difficult time.Love, Aunt Gayle

  3. Emily-My mom called me this morning to tell me the news about Erik. I am so heartbroken! Erik was a wonderful person and will truly be missed by all that loved him. My prayers are with you all. Love you guys.

  4. Emily – our hearts are with you today. When I think of Erik, I can’t help but remember all the times he told me how incredible you are and how lucky he felt that you would be with him. I also know that he was so proud of Mason and Milo. His family really is everything to him. I have always looked to him as a shining example of the type of man I want to be. We will miss him so much!Love,Rydel, Tammi, Marshal, Match and Ella

  5. Emily,We are so grateful for our association with you and Erik and your 2 sweet boys. What a blessing to share Monday evening with your family…it makes today’s news so bittersweet. Our thoughts and prayers are with you. We are grateful for the strength and courage and true grace you have shown through all of this. Please let us know what we can do!love,The Carr Family

  6. Emily, Mason, and Milo – Our thoughts and prayers remain with you. We love you guys and please know that we are here for you. Erik was (is) an awesome man and he has an awesome family.Love,Jim, Thea, and the boys

  7. Emily, My thoughts and prayers are with you, the boys, Missy,Frank, Heather and your family… I knew Erik from Texas, and then got to know him better when we went to Ricks. He is an amazing person, one who I relied on a lot that freshman year as we both fought homesickness. He was like a brother to me and I grew to love him and respect him a great deal, despite his “flaws” (please, his nose wasn’t even that big!!). And I remember the day that he told me about you, and how happy it made him just talking about you. It was great to see him so happy and I can only imagine his happiness with Mason and Milo. I’m am just so grateful that many people got to know and love Erik. He is loved by so many, and I feel blessed that I am one of them.Much Love, Jenny (Vest) Hatch

  8. emily, i am soo so sorry. i am overwhelmed with emotion right now. Amanda and Michelle and I were planning to come down today, but obviously we won’t come down, unless you need us. But we will be here every second of the day. we will come down anytime you need us. my cell is 652-1040 so call if you need anything.

  9. Emily, I love the way you sat down and wrote the immediate thoughts in your head. The thoughts and feelings you have for Erik. The “to do” lists and other “Erik” quirks are fun to remember. It really is those little things that make him special. The little things are what we need to appreciate about each other,aren’t they. I am thankful that you have let us share in this special time with your family. This is an experience I won’t soon forget. We care so much for you and your boys. You are on our minds all the time. Love,Heidi Rob Blake Hallie and Brinklie*Tell the boys we say hello

  10. Emily, our individual and family prayers are with you and your family during this overwhelming trial. Eric was truly the salt of the earth. He always made everyone around him feel comfortable and appreciated and loved. I am sure he will be using that same quality in the spirit world as he continues his mission and waits for the rest of his family. Please let us know if you need anything at all. We are willing and wanting to help in any way!

  11. Emily, Mason and MiloThanks for sharing Erik with all of us. What a guy! The example your family has shown to all of us is amazing. Please know that we are praying for you and your sweet family. Help is just a phone call away, day or night. Please don’t hesitate to call.Love,Mark, Ruth, Chloe, Caitlin, Estee and Eden

  12. Emily, Mason, and Milo,i am so heartbroken to hear the news. Erik is such an amazing person and we really feel so honored to have known him. We will miss him greatly as will everyone that has ever known him. Emily, your strength amazes me! But please know that we are all here for you to rally around you and help you in any way that we can. Please let all of us help you in any way that we can…we love you and your boys so much and you will be in our prayers always.Love, Heidi

  13. Emily, as I learn about this situation I am so sorry for our loss. We truly lost one of our strengths. I can feel peace that I know he has work to do or God would not call him home. If there is anything I can do, feel free to ask we all love Erik and He loves you so we are a large extended family for you. All of us big or small. Please let us know what we can do. All our love, Ryan Johansen

  14. Emily, my heart is breaking for you and your family. It’s so difficult to let go of someone you love even for what will be a brief moment in eternity. I know from everything your mom has told me that Erik loved you and the boys breyond measure. I hope it will be a small measure of comfort that there are so many people who love you and are waiting in the wings to help if you need them. I pray that the Comforter will bring you peace at this time. Love, Lynda H.

  15. Emily,Thank you for this entry. I laughed (I make those same milkshakes) and I cried. I am so sorry he is not with you anymore, but am confident he is smiling down on you (and probably crying as well) as I type. If you need anything, please, please, please do not hesitate to call me or Sarah.

  16. Emily and Boys,Just want you to know we love you guys and are here for you anytime. I am so glad you gave us the chance to visit with you and him late monday night. His last words to me will be forever etched in my mind. He was the most caring person I know. I am so glad we have been able to become good friends over the past couple years. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and memories of Erik with us. I love the “never forgets a number….” That’s me to a “T”.Love,Deena and CurtisPS. A big Thank You to Heather for giving us that extra year to be with him!!!!

  17. We love you all! We are so grateful that we were able to spend his last few days with you all. Eddie has loved Erik as the brother he never had. Please know that we are here for you and will be here to help you and the boys for all the hard days ahead. Don’t ever hesitate to ask us for help. We want to help wherever we can. Your strength is inspiring and Erik is a lucky man to have you and your boys to love and support him in his time here on earth.Eddie & Kelly

  18. Emily, Mason, and Milo-We are so sorry to hear the news about Erik. You guys are one of the strongest families we know. We are so grateful for your friendship. Taylor and I will always remember how great of a man Erik is and was. We love you guys so much and are so honored to have known Erik.Love The Leishmans

  19. Emily. You have been such an example of courage to me and my family. I’ll miss my friend and neighbor greatly. Erik inspired me to get a motorcylce and every time I ride it I will think of him and the times we went hometeaching together on our motorcylces. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family today.Travis Tholstrom

  20. Emily – We are so sorry. Erik was truly loved and will be missed by all. You and your family have been and will continue to be in our thoughts and prayers. The strength of you and your family is amazing. Please let us know if there’s anything we can do for you now and in the future. Love,The Ruchtis

  21. Emily…What a sweet post. I love how candidly you wrote about Erik and some little things you loved about him. You and Erik are loved by so many. My thoughts and prayers are with you and the boys during this difficult (okay, let’s just say it..SUCKY) time.

  22. Emily,We are all so sorry for your loss, I know that there is nothing we can say to help you with the pain you and your boys feel at this time. Just remember that our Heavenly Father has a greater plan that we can not always see or understand.Our prayers are with you,Jacob & Amanda Steele

  23. Emily-We are so sorry for your loss. It is a huge loss to all. Erik was an amazing man. It is heartbreaking. It is comforting to know he is with our Heavenly Father now. We wish you peace and comfort at this time. You are an inspiration to us. we love you guys!

  24. Emily, We are sorry, so very sorry for your loss. We will keep praying for you and the boys and all the family and loved ones who lost a friend today. Ben & Kim Swallow

  25. Emily,I am so sorry. Erik was truly a special person and I am very honored to have known him. Your beautiful family is a constant reminder or your love and time together. Thank you so much for posting all the information and pictures you did. It was very helpful to everyone. You have been so open and loving and I am so grateful that Erik had you around to take such good care of him and the boys. I know we have never met in person but we love you and the boys very much. We are here for you if you need us anytime.Love,Margaret and Bob Reyero

  26. We too are very heart broken at Erik’s passing. I’ll remember Erik for his willingness to learn and his humility. I cannot help but think of the legacy he has left behind as he’s been in the service of the Lord for the short time he has been on earth. Quoting one of President Hinckley’s favored hymns “God be with you till we meet again”. Love,Chris and Wendy Smith

  27. Oh Emily, I’m so sorry about Erik. I can’t imagine how it would be to lose someone you truly loved and cared about. I admire your strength and courage through such a difficult time. You are such a strong person and an inspiration to me. I care about you so much and I hope your boys are doing okay. We love you so much!!Love, Ennlee and John

  28. It can’t be helped that our hearts break for you and the boys today. It has been a privilege to get to know Eric and your sweet family.Eric had a very sincere smile that will be greatly missed, but always remembered! Please know that you are all in our prayers and we want to help in any way we can.With Love,The McBridesGlen, Tonya, Spencer, Tayler, Benjamin, & Emele

  29. Emily, Mason, & MiloWe are heartbroken to hear the news. Erik was one of the greatest people we’vd ever known. He will be missed dearly by everyone he came in contact with. We love you all & know that you will be in our thoughts & prayers. Rick & Diana Fassbinder

  30. I met Erik in Elementary School and knew him all the way up until we graduated high school. As a young girl, I was a little on the chubby side. I will never forget when a boy on the school bus called me fat and Erik (we couldn’t have been older than 10) stood up for me and said, I was not fat and that I just wasn’t really skinny! πŸ™‚ It made me feel good inside, he was a good man and I am so sad for your loss.God bless.

  31. Dear Emily, Kelly told me of Erik’s passing. I am so sorry for your loss! I enjoyed reading your blog about Erik. I did not know him well, but it is clear that he deeply influenced those he knew. I pray that your little family will find peace and comfort at this difficult time.Love, Lindsay Bascom-Brown

  32. Emily – my prayers and thoughts go out to you. You’re an amazing example of faith and courage! Erik was my “mission hero” – I always strove to emulate his humility, dedication, charity and enthusiasm. He was definitely a spiritual giant and I will always cherish the days we labored together in Brazil. We love you and wish you the best.Love,Kevin Brandvold and family

  33. (Emily, this is a cut and paste from an email from the Niania family in Australia)Thanks Mark. I’m at work right now but please give our love and condolences to the family. Erik was good a man and we are saddenned by his passing. I’m so glad we got to know him and the Rudy family will always be in our prayers. Erics example and strength carried me and my family through some difficult times and I will always be in his debt for that. Please let his wife know that if there is anything we can do to help then we will do it.Regards,George, Tiara, Juwan and Antron

  34. Emily – I have always wanted to tell you and Erik how Terry and I both admire the acceptance and love you both show towards other. I remember the first night we really got to talk and meet with you and Erik and I will treasure that time. I remember coming back in the house with Terry and saying Wow-they are some amazing people, then he expressed how he felt if there were more people just like the two of you-the world would be a greater place in a very big way. You will never know how your and Eriks kindness toward others has changed my husband and I’s intentions in life. We just want to be a little more like the Rudys. We do love you and pray for you and your darling family. My heart truely breaks for you, we are sorry for the loss of your best friend. Please let us help in any way. Love Terry and Kristi TownsendMatia also wants to let Mason know she is so sorry he can’t be with his daddy and wants to go ride bikes with Mason everyday! And I have a feeling Milo and Treg are going to hit it off real soon. Cute kids huh.

  35. Emily, I grew up with Erik back in the Keller Ward. I have never met you but have gotten to get a glimpse through the internet postings over the past year and wanted to let you know my thoughts and prayers are with you today. Erik will truly be missed. Sincerely, Melissa Harrison Thornock

  36. Emily thank you for keeping all of us updated on Erik…I’m so sorry for your loss. He was amazing and was such a lifesaver to me back in high school – I didn’t know many people but he was such a nice guy from day one when we moved to Texas. You and your boys will continue to be in our prayers.Love,Meredith Breinholt

  37. Emily and family, I am Marque Trosper’s mom. Marque and Sarah have told us so much about Erik and your family that when he called to tell me of his passing I felt like I lost someone I loved too. We have embraced you and prayed for you through the battle of his illness and thought that it was over. I’m so sorry but I know your time together over this last 18 months must have felt like a bonus for you and I’m sure you made every moment count. Bless you and your little family at this difficult time. We know you have many who love and support you. Please know that their extended families are joining in as well. Leslie Trosper

  38. Emily, I feel like I want to say so much, but I dont know how to start. My heart breaks for you and I love this post because it makes me smile about the person Erik was. Im so sorry for your loss, and while we all have lost a wonderful friend, I know it is most difficult for you. Im thankful that you have so much support and I know that you will be strong for Mason and Milo. But should you need someone outside of the loop, Im always here for you, as I was for Erik.Sending all my love,Lauren

  39. I met Erik just a few times, but he was so very kind and easy to have conversation with. He was always letting Jordan borrow cars to “test drive,” and I always thought that is one nice guy to trust Jordan with all those cool cars.My wife and I were very very saddened to hear of his passing. We will pray for you and your family.

  40. Emily-My heart is broken for you and your family. Eric, as you know was such a loving guy. I have had the honor to know him since we were kids. He could walk into a room and it would light up. My thoughts, prayers and heart are with you and your boys while you cope with your loss. I will be forever greatful for having him in my life. If you need anything please feel free to ask.Always,Lee’a

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